Thoughts on Grief – Anna McMullen BHSc CM

Grief is a difficult emotion to experience. It’s one we all inevitably face in our lifetime.


It can be a confusing emotion and may be experienced in many different ways. We are unique in this process, there is no one ‘right’ way.


Grief can strike suddenly, hard hitting and overwhelming in its magnitude. It can rise up and envelop us, leaving us shaken, confused, gasping for air. It can pass just as quickly as a wave, washing over us and then evaporating suddenly, leaving us wondering at the transience of our emotions.


Death and the loss of a loved one can be cause for grieving. So can the loss of a relationship, or even a change in a relationship dynamic. Chronic health conditions, past traumas, opportunities missed and big life changes can also induce grief. It is important to acknowledge these, give them weight and understand them so you can work through them and allow them to pass.


There is no set period to work through grief. No time limit. It can come back, and come back, and come back. People, places, memories, times and anniversaries can act as triggers, bringing back those feelings of sadness. Being aware of these and seeking out support can help to make the difference between feeling overwhelmed and isolated and feeling supported and held.


Grief can lead to despair and depression, or it can be a vehicle to encourage connection and to help us find meaning. Moving through grief and connecting with those around us helps to remind us of our human nature. It can help us find meaning in our lives and in our relationships. In time, as we heal, it can help us have a greater appreciation for the good in our lives, for the fragile and sometimes chaotic human life we are experiencing.


From a Chinese medicine perspective, grief affects the Lungs. It exhausts the Qi. It is normal to feel weary and run down when you are experiencing grief. It is important to be gentle with yourself during this time. Remember to stop and just breathe. Remember to take the time for self care. Even the most basic elements of self care, such as eating regularly, drinking water and exercising can help support the physical and emotional being move through grief. And you will move through it, in time.


Although pithy aphorisms are generally less than useful, there is one I believe stands true when it comes to grief. It is simple. Time heals. As time passes, we heal. The grief may come and go or it may be there forever. Healing may mean closure to some, it may mean learning how to exist side by side with the pain of loss. Regardless, in time, we heal.


If you’re struggling with depression acupuncture has been researched to help ( Anna has many years experience in depression, grief and emotional issues at Mornington Chinese Medicine.


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